Finding your Identity

A few weeks ago I spent a few days at Point Loma for our church’s annual women’s retreat. I’m not going to lie, I was very wishy washy about attending. In fact, I was so over committed the past couple months that I didnt think I could commit to one more thing. I felt like there were a thousand things pulling me in other directions not to attend. My sister in laws baby shower, one of my best friends 30th bday parties, and I had tickets to go see my favorite musical the Newsies. So clearly how was I going to fit in a women's retreat. Oh yea, I am still nursing my youngest. So I guess Ill be taking him with me. Needless to say, I ended up going down after a food show I was working and my awesome friend Alissa brought the baby to me at the retreat so that I could nurse the baby while I was there. I was so exhausted and in all honesty not really too excited about the weekend away and have felt in a bit of a slump with my Christianity lately. I was not motivated to go spend time with God at all. 
I am so happy that I decided to leave the family and go do something for myself. I had a great time connecting with awesome women and spending time getting to know others in my community. This year’s theme was all around our identity and how we value ourselves. Since there were so many great nuggets of information, I thought I would share some of my notes that I was able to grab in between breast feeding Elijah. 
- We need to recognize that we can’t place value markers on the identity we associate ourselves with

  • Often time I think as women and even as moms we place value on things that we have or our financial status or how well we think people like us, or how many followers we have on social media. 
  • We need to place value in what God says we are.

- We need to understand that its ok that we are not perfect. For me, it was knowing that I need to give myself some grace knowing that I cant do it all and that my house is not going to be perfect.
– We believe what God says about us, but we struggle to accept it.

  • This one in particular hit me really hard. I know God says I'm fearfully and wonderfully made, but how can I accept that. I feel constant pressure to be skinnier, more successful, a perfect wife, and be able to meet
  • How as women do we know and believe what Christ constantly says about us? 
  • What does my identity in Christ look like. 
– Set your mind on the things of the Spirit

  • This point is also particularly hard for me because I just honestly forget to do this at all. Love peace, patience, kindness, and self control. Do I do this daily?  Do you? 
– Jesus goes into His own testing to discover His identity – 40 days in the wilderness!

  • Have you ever given yourself time to reflect and really look at who you are? And Give yourself time to let God speak to you? I know this is something that I need to do more often. I have not made it a priority lately and I need to change that. 
  • I will make it a goal to do this by the end of the month.
And Thankfully my good friend Alissa was able to jot down these additional points for me since I was holding the baby and I had to share  some of her points she wrote down.

– Your wounds do not define you. You are who God says you are!
– God see’s you, He weeps with you when you are suffering. This isn’t the end, you will come out of this!

  • So often times I think we all get into seasons where we just do not know where God is in our lives, and we dont know why he is allowing what he is allowing to happen in our story. 
  • I encourage you to stay the course. This season although so hard will not be the end and God is going to use this pain and this hard season to better your story in the long run.
– Many of us struggle with how to integrate God’s word and let it transform us. 

  • Can I get an amen on this? I struggle with this so much lately that its sad. I have no motivation sometimes to just crack open the word like I have in other seasons before this. But I commit to do this more because  my life, my marriage, my kids all do better when I'm engaged in the word. 
– How can we practically integrate Him? 1.) With Gratitude – writing down 3 things each day that you’re grateful for. 2.) Being aware of what we’re filling our minds with – what we put in our minds shapes and forms how we see God. 3.) Lean into your humanity – find the things in your life where you come alive and feel like the fullest version of ourselves. Tap into God!

Scriptures for follow up reading and affirmation!
Romans 8:1-11; 15-17
Psalm 16
Luke 4:18-21
Isaiah 61:1-3
Ephesians 1:3-10; 15-19
Thanks to Alissa for jotting some extra notes that I missed, and I pray that you are equally as encouraged as I was going away for that weekend.

I am really going to try to put into practice some of these things.

Hope this blessed you like it blessed me.

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